It has been a difficult week. The demands and challenges piled up and a few “mini-crises” pushed their way in also. I’m not complaining, just giving context. As the week unfolded, overall I felt like I was doing pretty well. Keeping my head above water (does barely above water count?) and keeping a decent attitude. Tuesday, I found myself making a several hour trip in my car alone, and I turned on the week’s Revive Our Hearts podcasts. [As an aside, my sister introduced me to these podcasts, and over and over again they have been encouraging and convicting to me and have helped me grow in my faith.] This week, Shaunti Feldhahn was the guest, talking about her book, The Kindness Challenge. Monday’s podcast was great – I do believe kindness is a superpower 🙂 and I was on board with working on showing kindness. I realized as I listened that I have room to grow in the kindness department. Then came Tuesday’s message. Oh my!

The discussion was about “nixing the negativity.” Again, I am on board with that!
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.”
I realize that my tendency is toward negativity, but as Shaunti Feldhahn talked about some different ways negativity can be expressed, I felt like a spotlight was shining on my last several days. She made the point that EXASPERATION is a form of negativity. Yikes!
Exasperation/exasperated according to Merriam-Webster: “having or showing strong feelings of irritation or annoyance.” Here are a few synonyms for exasperate: perturb, irk, irritate, rankle, annoy, try the patience of. Yep, I had spent a fair amount of my time at work Monday and Tuesday in a state of exasperation. And unfortunately, my exasperation had caused me to be short and even shrill with my co-workers, even though they were not deserving of shortness or shrillness. As I listened to the podcast, my memory played clips of conversations of the last several days, and I saw a Leah that was not kind.
What is the opposite of exasperated? Patient, calm, peaceful, content. Kind. As I drove, I listened. As I listened, I understood. As I understood, I prayed. I prayed for forgiveness and for a new approach.
Exasperation in the face of pressure and imperfect circumstances is not really that surprising. Maybe you could excuse it – as my co-worker said when I apologized, “you are human.” I am. But I am a new creation because of the power of Jesus.
“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing!” Galatians 2:20-21
“Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” 2 Corinthians 5:17

I don’t have to default to exasperation, because of the transforming power of Jesus and because of the Holy Spirit who fills me! It was definitely an ah-ha moment there on I-75 south.
And I can tell you that the little meeting I had with my Father there during that drive made a huge difference! I apologized to my co-workers. I was aware of my mood and my words and non-verbal communication as the week rolled on. And I can also tell you that the week continued to be difficult. The sailing was far from smooth, but my internal tide had turned.
What a blessing that I had listened to that particular podcast that particular day. Probably not a coincidence. As I have been thinking about it today, I have realized that the timing was perfect. The way I was responding to the pressure I was feeling needed addressed. I had some “down time” to be still and listen to truth, and to hear God calling me to something better. Pressure often leads to change and brings forth fruit.
There is a song called “New Wine” that expresses that beautifully. Here are the lyrics:
In the crushing
In the pressing
You are making new wine
In the soil
I now surrender
You are breaking new ground
So I yield to You and to Your careful hand
When I trust You I don’t need to understand
Make me Your vessel
Make me an offering
Make me whatever You want me to be
I came here with nothing
But all You have given me
Jesus bring new wine out of me
‘Cause where there is new wine
There is new power
There is new freedom
And the Kingdom is here
I lay down my old flames
To carry Your new fire today
So, make me Your vessel
Make me an offering
Make me whatever You want me to be
God, I came here with nothing
But all You have given me
Jesus, bring new wine out of me
If you have a few more moments, I would like to tell you how I first heard that song. I was in Haiti, and one of our translators, Nicholson, told me a bit of his story.
Nicholson grew up in Miami, the son of Haitian immigrants. He had an older brother and a younger brother. The younger brother was born in the US. When Nicholson was 14-ish, there was a knock on the door, and Nicholson discovered for the first time that he was in the US illegally. No papers. His parents and older brother had papers, but they did not have any for him. His younger brother was a citizen by virtue of birth. Nicholson was deported to Haiti: a teenager from Miami, without his parents or brothers, sent to live with some extended family in a country of poverty and civil unrest and very limited opportunity. When I met him, he was 19 or 20, doing translating work for mission organizations when he could. He worked with us all week, and I was so drawn to his sweet spirit and servant heart. One day I asked him what his favorite song was, and he said he had lots of favorites, but the one he was liking most at the time was “New Wine.” Really? “I came here with nothing, but all You have given me. Jesus, bring new wine out of me.” Nicholson’s pressing and crushing makes my “difficult” week seem like a vacation.
Jesus, use the pressing and the crushing in our lives to make something beautiful. Help us to be willing to surrender to You, to listen for Your voice and to choose Your way. Empower us to choose kindness over exasperation. Teach us to receive Your love and to let it flow out of us onto the people around us. Transform us and fill us with Your Holy Spirit. Break new ground.
“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 42:19
“Love is patient, love is kind.” I Corinthians 13:4
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Kindness matters.
-Leah











